Madness has method

 My divine, the unknown being - Mungu wangu, kiumbe asiyejulikana

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Madness has method

As I mentioned, I am now learning Swahili. Believe me that it's not always easy. And if you knew my divine, I would imagine some might think it's impossible.

My divine is unusually pretty, I have to admit that here. In raging desperation because I am stuck, I say to her: "Believe me, I would do anything to understand this chapter. I really mean everything."

The Divine asks, "Really everything?"

I bend down to her and look deep into her eyes, breathe to her: "Everything."

She, dryly, replies: "Then keep studying!"

That's how I feel, no help!

I'm very different.

My daughter is sitting in the room trying to solve a crossword puzzle. Asks her dad, "Dad, end of life with three letters?"

Me, dry, but I always tell the whole truth: "Marriage."

That's right, isn't it?

When I ask the divine for information, I usually get no answer. That can have several reasons. She is busy with her smartphone, that often happens (I try to formulate it carefully, after all it's about my life), or she doesn't hear it! She wants to hear something completely different. "Karl angeoa kama ungekubali" - Karl would marry if she agreed. I'm sure she would like to hear that. Maybe not. Who knows.

On the other hand, we would cry a lot if the old man died - tungelia sana kama mzee angekufa. Not bad. My Swahili is getting better. Now I can already speak several words. But I still have no desire to enter the eternal hunting grounds. Tungefurahi sana kama angeopona - we would be very happy if he gets well again. All I can say is slowly. We men are afraid.

"I have to admit, I'm often jealous for no reason."

Mine might reply, "I promise you'll never have to be unnecessarily jealous of me!"

Bah!

Wivu - jealousy. Really bad. (And learned another word.)

Dying - kwamba kufa.

But of course all this is far from reality! I should stick to the truth.

We are an odd couple. Weird because we are different. She talks a lot and I listen. She likes it and so do I. Nothing else matters.

When two have found each other who love each other, then there is nothing more to do. Love comes by itself, you can refuse, but that's the wrong way.

"Love is a serious mental illness." That's what the philosopher Plato said. I think love is the healthiest of all illnesses.

Almost everyone knows the feeling when your stomach fills with butterflies and your head feels so wonderfully light. You want to sing and dance and the problems that were just building up like gray clouds in our firmament dissolve into sheer delight. There is only one explanation for this: We are in love!

"Love is a serious mental illness." That's what the philosopher Plato said. I think love is the healthiest of all illnesses.

Almost everyone knows the feeling when your stomach fills with butterflies and your head feels so wonderfully light. You want to sing and dance and the problems that were just building up like gray clouds in our firmament dissolve into sheer delight. There is only one explanation for this: We are in love!

What is love? This question sounds so simple. But is it really that simple? We all talk and read so much about love and we often use the term love so thoughtlessly and lightly. But what actually is love? Love usually comes all by itself, that would be desirable. But she doesn't stay, she goes again, disappears, can no longer be found. Love, isn't this a real existing illusion? Who thought about it? What is love? is it a relationship is it a feeling

Before love comes, you have to fall in love first. What does it mean to fall in love or to be in love?

It is usually written all over the face of lovers when they are in love. The look is dreamy, people in love smile more often, are in a good mood, they always talk enthusiastically about their crush. Or you will notice the excitement when two lovers meet. The work is done as soon as possible or simply postponed, with bright eyes and joyful anticipation, ahead of time in thought and with a noticeably rising pulse, they set off in a hurry to see their beloved as soon as possible. To be with her loved one, to talk to each other and to walk holding hands. Why is that? Out of love.

Love is a feeling that binds one person to another in a relationship that cannot be described. The most important thing for lovers is to make the other person happy. Those who feel deep love for each other find it difficult to be apart even for a short time. They are willing to forget most of their other relationships and sacrifice them for the sake of their love. They are willing to die for each other, and history teaches us that sometimes it does happen. Love is therefore an emotional bond that can never be described, but only experienced.

why do we fall in love Why do we need another human? Can't we love ourselves just the way we are? Can't we exist alone? What role does chemistry play in making two people fall in love? And why do we fall in love with this particular person? Love is a mystery.

Try explaining the taste of sugar to someone who has never tasted anything sweet. You won't succeed. To do this, the other person must first taste the sugar themselves. Likewise, love can never be explained in words. You have to experience it yourself to know this feeling of happiness.

It's not that easy to explain love. Essentially, what love is can only be hinted at. Love is the strongest appreciation and affection that transcends the purpose of an interpersonal relationship. Being in love, on the other hand, is something completely different. Infatuation is time dependent. Well, a careful observer can tell from our face, from our behavior, that something is wrong with us, that we are in an extraordinary state. The observer can now conclude that we are in love. There may be other reasons why we behave so strangely. A positively completed exam can also put a smile on our faces or a medical finding that rules out anything bad. There are many ways to be happy. It also depends on the people. Not everyone is suitable for togetherness. For some people it's better if they stay alone, it doesn't mean they're lonely, they can still be happy. Being together is no guarantee of happiness.

why do we fall in love when do we fall in love There are different opinions and different possibilities. One possibility, which is not likely to come up often, is that you fall in love at first sight. Chance plays a big role here. If you are not in the right place at the right time, you will miss this opportunity! And one more thing to keep in mind, a person can fall in love with another person instantly, which doesn't mean that that person also fell in love immediately. Sometimes it takes years for a love to develop. An example of this could be that work colleagues develop a certain attraction for each other, that takes time and is not easy to handle. However, wherever love falls, lovers have one thing in common: they are happy, feel butterflies in your stomach and feel you have arrived in life. Evolutionary biologists believe the reason we fall in love is through reproduction. Women look at their future partner for socio-ecological factors, while men, as always, pay more attention to the women's appearance. For the woman, of course, the focus is on whether the partner is the right one; can he support the family, can he protect them, can he handle children, will he be a good husband and father? None of this matters much to the man, he just looks to see if the woman is fertile, and that's enough. The same applies to both sexes: They find a healthy appearance of their counterpart particularly appealing and attractive. From the beginning of mankind since the beginning of evolutionary history, males and females have sought a mate to sustain the species. Nature has designed the human body to have a strong attraction to individuals of the opposite sex. The choice fell on the person who appeared to be the most fertile. The so-called hourglass shape of a female figure as well as a pronounced buttocks and a firm chest were and are - then as now - particularly positive features from the point of view of the man. Attributes such as a symmetrical face and radiant young skin only became more important over time when looking for a partner. Many offspring had to be fathered because the chances of survival were not particularly great. At that time, people hardly got older than 30 years. Growing old was anything but easy because of these medicinal and superstitious practices. On the basis of tax lists one could determine that in the 14./15. Century, female mortality between the ages of 20 and 40 years was significantly higher than that of men. Due to the many pregnancies and births - 20 births in a marriage were not uncommon - and the heavy physical housework and field work, the average life expectancy for women was only 29.8 years. For contraception, like abortion, was punishable by death under the influence of the clergy. Men, on the other hand, were (or are) easily susceptible to illnesses, particularly in the first two years of their lives. There were plagues that decimated humanity. The plague was one of them. It took some time by the time humans figured out what to do about it, a third of humanity would have been wiped out. Once they got past this critical time, they lived to between 40 and 60 years of age. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third was younger than 14. what they could do about it, a third of humanity had already been wiped out. Once they got past this critical time, they lived to between 40 and 60 years of age. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third was younger than 14. what they could do about it, a third of humanity had already been wiped out. Once they got past this critical time, they lived to between 40 and 60 years of age. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third was younger than 14. Once they got past this critical time, they lived to between 40 and 60 years of age. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third under 14. Once they got past this critical time, they lived to between 40 and 60 years of age. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third was younger than 14. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third under 14. However, the high male mortality rate among young children pushed the average male life expectancy down to 28.4 years. Child mortality was high. In the Middle Ages, one in two children born died in their first year of life. Even in good times, one in five children died before they could reach the age of two. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third was younger than 14. before it could be two years old. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third under 14. before it could be two years old. Ultimately, of the 20 children of a medieval mother, no more than 1-2 children reached marriageable age. The medieval people were young. It is likely that around half of the population was younger than 21, and perhaps as much as a third was younger than 14.

Women are particularly attracted to a taller, strong-looking man who can apparently protect them. Men, on the other hand, usually look for a woman who appears smaller and weaker than themselves, since the aspect of the protector is also subconsciously in the foreground for men. It is also the charisma of a person that decides whether we fall in love. That "certain something" that cannot be defined that makes us so attractive. Body language, scent, and hormones can all help us fall in love, according to research. The greater the prosperity of a culture and the more equal men and women are, the less their desires differ when choosing a partner - proof that cultural achievements can override biological factors. This is also shown by sociological studies: If you met your great love, for example, in the introductory lecture for law students, that is normal. Couples often come from the same social milieu Individual charisma plays a major role. A person's self-confident demeanor can lead to us becoming addicted to them.

In the animal kingdom, the sense of smell plays a major role in choosing a partner. From mice to boars, animals let pheromones guide them when it comes to finding the right mate. This messenger substance is perceived in an unconscious way and can trigger reproduction-related physiological reactions. It is no different with humans. People also release these messenger substances and can receive them. The idea is not very romantic, but it is conceivable that we can, to a certain extent, use special receptor sensors in our noses to sniff out who is genetically compatible with us and who also has the necessary fertility so that we can conceive healthy children. Our hormones influence whether we like very "manly" guys who are obviously bursting with testosterone, or whether the sensitive person with the well-groomed eyebrows has a chance with us ("male" candidates are particularly attractive around the time of ovulation, "female" men the rest of the time). Pheromones (sexual attractants) are the key to falling in love in the animal kingdom and scientists suspect that they also play a role in humans – but no one has been able to prove or clearly identify human pheromones so far. So if you see a perfume for women somewhere that advertises a beguiling effect or something like that: Don't fall for it! So far, this can only be an empty promise. However, a number of scientists suspect that we do not consciously choose the object of our desire, that is, that unconscious impressions make a person attractive to us. There is also a theory today that by smelling a person, we can subconsciously assess their immune system. Of course, the question arises as to what the immune system has to do with falling in love. But from a biological point of view, the answer is also very logical. Individuals with a strong immune system offer the best genetic conditions for producing healthy babies and the survival of the species is guaranteed. Reproduction - the most beautiful thing in the world - ensures that the genetic information of egg and sperm cells mix during sex and that the resulting life is better protected against diseases. But from a biological point of view, the answer is also very logical. Individuals with a strong immune system offer the best genetic conditions for producing healthy babies and the survival of the species is guaranteed. Reproduction - the most beautiful thing in the world - ensures that the genetic information of egg and sperm cells mix during sex and that the resulting life is better protected against diseases. But from a biological point of view, the answer is also very logical. Individuals with a strong immune system offer the best genetic conditions for producing healthy babies and the survival of the species is guaranteed. Reproduction - the most beautiful thing in the world - ensures that the genetic information of egg and sperm cells mix during sex and that the resulting life is better protected against diseases.

When does a person become happy with their partner? Is love just a coincidence, or do we fall in love with certain people on purpose? What makes others so attractive to us and why are we not interested in some people at all? It is said that opposites attract. This refers to people's preferences. Women and men want opposites, as already mentioned. Couple therapists have a different opinion. They believe a partnership lasts longer when goals, desires, hopes, and values ​​are similar. Love is a process that starts slowly. Love only comes after the infatuation phase. This way, through joint ventures and discussions, it can be found out whether a future together is possible. It is extremely important that the couple is on the same wavelength, so that feelings of love can arise at all. It's not surprising that we don't fall in love with looks or looks, but with personality traits. If we recognize our own values ​​in our partner, then that has an extremely attractive effect on us. Exactly this constellation creates the conditions for being in love. The characters must match, otherwise no love can arise. One thing is very important when falling in love, we have to be ready to fall in love. If we are already in love, it will be extremely difficult for the seductress to win our affection. We have to be willing to let ourselves go. Today's man is no longer used to letting himself go, far too many emotions storm him, that makes falling almost impossible. He can no longer indulge his feelings. After all, love is a moment of weakness when we can no longer or do not want to defend our fortress. Something is missing in our lives, there is an emptiness in us that needs to be filled. When we realize that our counterpart can fill this emptiness, then it happens - we fall in love. Body odor plays a very important role when falling in love: we sniff each other. Apparently, our individual fragrance reveals to potential love candidates how our defenses are doing. There is a void within us that needs to be filled. When we realize that our counterpart can fill this emptiness, then it happens - we fall in love. Body odor plays a very important role when falling in love: we sniff each other. Apparently, our individual fragrance reveals to potential love candidates how our defenses are doing. There is a void within us that needs to be filled. When we realize that our counterpart can fill this emptiness, then it happens - we fall in love. Body odor plays a very important role when falling in love: we sniff each other. Apparently, our individual fragrance reveals to potential love candidates how our defenses are doing.

Now we've come to sex. Love doesn't have much to do with sex, but it leads there. Love without sex is unthinkable. Sex is different than love. Sexuality is a central aspect of human beings. It's a normal and positive way of expressing yourself. Sexuality is not only about sex, but also about other things such as sexual pleasure and intimacy, anatomy and childbearing, as well as taboos and values ​​about sexual orientation. Let's be honest, sexuality is complicated. Sex varies from country to country, from individual to individual, and from day to day. In general usage, sex refers to sexual acts between two or more sexual partners, in particular sexual intercourse and comparable sexual practices, in a broader sense also masturbation. Sex fulfills numerous functions: it satisfies the libido, serves procreation in the form of sexual intercourse, and generally expresses feelings of tenderness, affection, and love as an important form of social interaction. Especially in love relationships, sex life can play a central role as an expression of the bond between the partners. However, it is not exclusively linked to love relationships or partnerships. It is said that men think about sex far too often. Every 7 seconds. That's pretty often. Sex is no longer pure instinctual behavior, but is also subject to conscious decision-making processes. If you love each other and feel like each other, you can't do so much wrong. First of all we have sex when we are in love, it is the most beautiful way to show our love. We become very intimate with our partner and that's a good thing. Experiencing intimacy is getting to know your partner better, living out feelings, engaging in various sexual practices. Sex is not only performed to produce children. Sex is also performed to relax. Sex is a very important thing in our life. Sex isn't just about technique. It is also important that you pay attention to each other's feelings and desires, share intimacy and create the right atmosphere. Sex can be different every time. The partners have to experiment, have to try everything. Sex is not a one-way street, sex is a high road, it goes up and down. The desire for sex can change over the course of a lifetime. You get older, the desire decreases. That is normal. We can also not have sex for a long time, that also happens. In any case, one thing should be ensured that the sex is consensual. With lovers, this usually happens by itself, because most of the time they don't talk about having sex at a certain point in time, sex just happens. Love leads us there, there is no way around it.

Finally we come to marriage. Doesn't have to be, but can be. When it comes to couples who choose to get married, surveys rank romantic feelings at the top, followed by a need for security and a desire to stand up for one another. Even marriage has little to do with love. You can love, but you don't have to marry. If there is a marriage, then it should be a love marriage. As already mentioned, marriage can also have economic and social goals. Women became more economically independent and were thus freed from the need to look for a provider; increasingly, love as the basis of marriage became the norm. These "suppliers" still exist today. They may have faded into the background, but they are there. Women's engagement in work and careers has reduced or eliminated the economic gap between men and women. This has changed the primary function of marriage so that marriage is now a means of providing a stable long-term home for children. Accordingly, investing in children has become a driving force to sustain the institution of marriage. In fact, sometimes we may not recognize love because we expect far too much. Because we always equate love with excitement, passion and big drama. Life is not easy, but neither is it a state of emergency. If we want to live as a couple, we have to accept that in long relationships, passion becomes irrelevant and friendship takes its place. love changes Why is it so difficult, to choose the person whose face we can see better in the morning than that of many other people? And yes, it's true, love goes, slowly but surely. That's nothing unusual. After the marriage, all the bells are still ringing, you feel like you're floating on a cloud. That doesn't last long, everyday life catches up with the couple. The daily grind takes over happiness. That is bad. Get up, brush your teeth, have breakfast, rush to work, come back in the evening, tired and worn out, eat supper, watch TV, go to sleep. The daily routine. You have to be careful there. At some point you have nothing more to say to each other. It is crucial in a well-running marriage that both partners work on the relationship, that they give each other love and attention and do not take each other for granted. So if you notice that something is going wrong in the marriage, that you may feel unloved or unheard, then it is high time to talk openly with your partner about your feelings and to weigh up whether the relationship still makes sense at all. You may be happier alone than in a broken marriage.

And finally, a positive outlook on married life. A relationship needs work, nothing happens by itself. Only in fairy tales and stories do we believe that once we have found a partner we can sit back and relax. That's not how it works. We have to follow certain rules of the game. Couples who have been together for decades can and inevitably have to solve problems together. There is no relationship without problems. There are always problems. Being able to laugh together is extremely important. If only one partner can laugh, that's not satisfying. And finally, perhaps the most important thing: Conquering the world together. If you follow these few pieces of advice, you have a good chance of having a happy marriage.

Hence this following letter to my divine:

"My dear, well-loved darling, I hope you had a very happy Sunday. When I think of it, my heart leaps. I will tell you words, mouth, and eyes what these lines so weakly can, that you, are my everything, my happiness and life and how grateful I am to you for all the richness of your love, for everything you are to me. You, my dearest love, be commended to God. Let me kiss you, but very warm and heartfelt and always stay that way dear and trusting and good.

Your loving Karl."